Thursday, March 31, 2005

Marriage's Corner

This advice is for all...
For Those who has aim...
For Those who is aimless...
This is for all...
Everyone who seeking for the goodness.

Marriage is for the deen...
Marriage is chaste... remember that...
Indeed marriage could because of the wealthness, beauty, heriditary and becaused of faith.
Don't make the wealthness, heriditary, beauty as the reason...

Because all of that can lead you to calamity, so please use faith as the reason, it will lead you to happiness.

We can't deny if love is the founder of family...
but... if we use Love as the reason to marry
then your home will be brittle and easy to be destroyed

Use "ALLAAH & Religion of Islam" as the reason...
Surely you will be blessed, Not only in this life, also in the Hereafter...
Use the bless of Allaah as the motive...
Surelly mawaddah, sakinah and warahmah you will reach.

Dont think you will be the king in "your palace"...
Welcoming by your wife when you are arrived and served everything you want...

if you still do it, then your palace can't be imperishable...

Learn from the noble person Muhammad saw...
Never angry when he have to slept in front of the door, placed by His turban,
because his beloved wife (aishah ra) didnt know he was coming.

Always smile, even when there is nothing to eat
There are no foods served when he is hungry...
Sewed his wet clothes...

Don't think you will be the queen in "your palace"...

Spoiled and served by your husband...
get everything you want....
If thats what you want, "your palace" will be like hell for you

Don't follow all what your wife's want
If you do that then you will be misfortune....
You can't see the different between white and black,
You can't see the right and the wrong.....
Take a lesson how was Allaah rebuke your "Prophet"
when he made the lawful become unlawful because
he followed his wife's want.


Be emphatic to your wife...
With your loves, asked her to obey Allaah...
Don't let her follow her willing...
Take lesson how was Noah and Lot wifes.....
Under guidance of selected man, they are become opposer ...
Your wife could be your enemy....

Teach your wife...
Teach her! how to be like Hajar, the modesty woman, who have loyalty to her husband's mission.
Teach her! how to be like Maryam, the modesty woman who keep her chaste...
Teach her! how to be like Khadijah ra, the modesty woman who company her husband
to do the holy mission...

Your wife is your responsbility...
Don't prohibit her to obey Allaah...
Let her become a pious muslimah...
Let her become a Hajar or Maryam....
Don't shackle her with your ego ...

If you become a wife...
Don't push your husband to do what you want.
Don't push your husband to disobey Allaah...
Prepare your self like Hajar, who has loyalty to her husband mission.....
Prepare your self like Maryam, who could keep her chaste....
Prepare your self like Khadijah, who could companion her husband to do the holy mission.

Don't badger your husband with your whimper...
Don't badger your husband with your crying....
If you do that..... his love will force him become
insurgent... So Please don't do it...

If you become a father ......
Be a wise father like Luqmanul Hakim
Be emphatic father like Ibrahim
Be affection father like Muhammad saw
Take your children to know Allaah...Teach them how to be good muslims.

Advise them to obey Allaah...
Teach them to be like the devotedly Yusuf ....
Teach them to be like the obedient Ismail ....
Don't make them like the rebellios Kan'an.

Pray to Allaah...
Pray to Allaah, to make them become shalih/ah childrens.....
The childrens who will bring the happiness.

The childrens who love the prophet, his ahlul bayt and the salafusholih.

If you become a mother....
Be a wise mother, a shaddy mother....
Lead your childrens with your attention....
Learn them how to be pious muslims...
Learn them how to be the soldiers of Allaah.....

and tell them...
"This life is only for Allaah Subhanahu Wa Taala"

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